Elizabeth Santelmann A Devoted Mama

A Devoted Mama

Elizabeth Santelmann

Each mama has been uniquely gifted by God in his calling of motherhood. He has equipped each woman with a unique set of circumstances and with a unique personality and talents. While each life looks differently, what doesn’t change is the fact that he equips each mama who lives a life devoted to him! This Devoted Mama feature is meant to encourage you that while every life looks different, a life devoted to God will never return void. Motherhood is our mission field and we are in this together.

Tell us a bit about yourself.

I’m a second generation homeschool mom. Before I had kids, I worked as an after-school children’s program director. I was responsible for lesson planning, teaching and tutoring. I was so burnt out from helping homeschool kids as a teenager, teaching, and tutoring I never dreamed I would homeschool my children. But as they got older, I started realizing how limited our options were. Our state only does full time Kindergarten and my oldest was still taking long naps in kindergarten. I knew a full day of activities would be exhausting for him, so we decided to try homeschooling ourselves, but JUST for kindergarten. “Man makes his plans, but the Lord laughs.” The next year all the school shut down because of Covid. From what my friends were telling me, homeschooling again ourselves was going to be much, much easier than trying to do A/B days and digital school, so we homeschooled again. The third year we were in a rhythm, so we continued. I did realize that I needed more community, so we joined a “drop-off co-op” this year! The community and time to cook and clean alone has been so refreshing.

What does a typical day-in-the-life look like for you?

I’m not an early rising mama! The boys are awake early but must stay in their beds until 7. Then at 7:30 they can get up and play in their room or go eat breakfast that Joseph has set out. After they’ve eaten sometimes if the baby is still asleep, they come snuggle with me. I get up whenever the baby wakes up so somewhere between 7-8.

Three days a week the boys do their morning routine, and then start what I call a “Hands-off Morning Basket”. I’m never ready to sit down and launch into a homeschool day first off. Mornings for me are my best time to start supper, clean the house, and get things set up and ready for my day. Having work that the kids can mostly do independently has been such a game changer for this year.

Joseph comes home for lunch, then after lunch we have “rest time”. I try to collect beautiful books that they will enjoy looking at and reading. I give each boy their books and they must stay in their spot for 1 hour. (This is while the baby sleeps).

After rest time, I sit down with our oldest two to do Language Arts. Then everyone heads out to play. Right now, the boys love making bug hotels, and jumping on the trampoline.

After supper, Joseph does math with our oldest.

The other two days a week, we do slow start mornings. The boys still do their morning routine, but then I let them watch a show, so I can get ready and put some make up on before co-op drop off. I drop them off at 10. At school they do handwriting practice, memorize poetry, study art, read aloud, do nature studies, and listen to and learn about classical composers. I pick them back up at 3:30!

What are some things you enjoy doing?

I adore writing and photography, which lead to managing my Instagram account and starting a blog. I play piano and encourage my boys to as well. We love to garden together.

What is your testimony?

I grew up in a Christian home and came to tell my mom that I had “asked Jesus into my tummy” at 3 years old. I’m the type of person that questions everything, so I’ve had some real swings in my faith. Because faith is something that we can’t quantify or provide data for, that makes it a real struggle for me. I terrorized my parents with questions about world religion and theology starting at about 15. Off and on the next 5 years I worked missions and writing Bible lessons for children regularly. At 23 I learned some things about my childhood faith tradition that really shook me. I threw away my Bible and decided at that time I was done with faith. Thankfully, the same questioning mind that makes me struggle with faith also leads be back to faith every time. There is too much to the world that points to a deity to ignore.

God has used these struggles in my own heart to grow me, but also to not be uncomfortable with other people asking hard questions. I am not intimidated by people doubting faith because my own heart has already asked those same questions and come back to a settled place.

My cyclical faith struggles have built into me a longing for the perfect heaven and earth where even my mind can rest in his grace without struggle with sin and human fallibility.

What do you do to keep your walk with the Lord fresh during the busyness of motherhood?

My favorite thing right now is podcasts. I’ve been doing a ton of study on 1 and 2 Samuel, because I’m writing a middle grade book about those books of the Bible. It will be released Spring 2023!

The study of these books has made me fall in love with the way we see God’s heart in his treatment of Hannah, Samuel, David, and Abigail! These amazing and vivid characters have never been so real to me as they are right now! In my opinion 1 and 2 Samuel has some of the best stories of the Bible!

I also read a ton of non-fiction that helps me to understand the Bible better, and I love listening to the shorter catechism questions and answers set to song with the kids.

If another mama were to ask you, what resources would you recommend to her?

Sally Clarkson “The Life-Giving Home” – This book encourages me to live seasonally and to include things into our yearly routine that bring beauty and point to Jesus. I don’t have to do everything every month, but rather everything in its own season.

Susan Macaulay For the Children’s Sake” – This book has taught me that my children are whole persons, the same as I am. It has changed the way I talk to them. Respecting their intelectrather than talking down to them.

“Seeing Jesus in the Old Testament” series by Nancy Guthrie – I can’t recommend anything that has grown my faith more than this series. Learning to see the Bible as a whole, rather than broke up bits has been incredibly helpful. The book on the prophets wooed me back to faith when I had given it up.

What do you think it means to be a Devoted Mama?

To not look at what other people are doing and trying to copy it, but rather to look at your own unique family and your own giftings then do what’s best for your family. Your path may look like someone else’s, but your reasons maybe different, or it may look nothing like the lives of even people you respect. That’s okay, and that’s the joy of parenting do what’s in line with God’s gifts to you and your family!

Any parting thoughts to encourage other mamas to live devotedly?

There’s such a wide range of “right choices” for family culture! Don’t lose your family’s unique culture and gifts in the middle of the noise.

Elizabeth Santelmann

Elizabeth Santelmann

I’m raising three little boys in Oklahoma City. I grew up in the country, and still get confused on how this is done. So I head out to my little raised beds to dig in the dirt and head to the wooded areas in our city as much as possible!

We have chosen to homeschool. My hope is to provide them with a grace-filled childhood. So many times people choose to homeschool from fear, but my decision was created from a desire to provide as much beauty as their hearts can hold.

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Every Testimony

can be used for God’s glory

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But a couple years ago, after sharing my testimony with a friend, her response completely humbled me. She said, ‘Shanda, your testimony gives me hope that my kids CAN have a testimony like yours. One without heartache and pain. It’s a testimony of God’s promise of a godly heritage being fulfilled.’ (paraphrased)

Here I wasn’t sharing my testimony because I thought it wasn’t good enough, but really it was me not sharing the goodness and faithfulness of my heavenly Father! Shame on me.

I come from a long line of Christians. As far back as I can look on my mom’s side of the family, most every grandparent, great grandparent and great-great grandparent loved the Lord.

One night when I was 3 or 4 years old, I remember my mom reading me a bedtime story about Jonah and the whale. When she was done reading, I told her I didn’t want to run from God like Jonah did and asked her to help me ‘ask Jesus into my heart.’

After praying a very simple prayer in childlike faith, my mom suggested we call my dad at work (he was working night shift) and tell him about the decision I had made. He was as a little skeptical that such a young child could fully understand the concept of salvation, so when I told him I ‘asked Jesus into my heart’ he responded with, ‘Well what’s he doing in there?!’

After thinking for a moment, I said, ‘He’s cleaning,’

Friends, Jesus said to let the little children come unto him. So often I think we are inhibiting children from doing just that because we don’t think they are capable of understanding. Sure, I’ve grown so much in knowledge of the Lord since that day… But faith is simple. It’s understanding that we are imperfect and we need a perfect Savior to wash us clean. Children know they do bad things… Why not lead them to the One who can wash all those bad things ‘clean?’

A godly heritage is real mama. The work you are doing in laying down the foundation of the Gospel is important. The Gospel is simple. We tend to over complicate it.

Let the little children come unto Him, and never question the testimony he has given you because God uses all people in all walks of life… And he wants to use YOU.

What is your testimony? Share it in the comments below!

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Several years ago, after battling years of infertility while trying to get pregnant with our first two children, I found myself miraculously pregnant with our third child naturally. I remember the morning I got the positive pregnancy test. My feet barely touched the stairs as I bounded up the steps from our basement bathroom to the kitchen to tell my husband I was pregnant. I practically shrieked, “I’m pregnant!” to my husband who by this time was concerned with my joyful hysteria.

Later that night as we sat down together after the kids went to bed, I confessed, “I know this may sound silly, but this baby is a boy and his name is Ezra David.” Knowing how practical I usually am, my husband was a bit amused by my proclamation, but he knew me well enough not to laugh at me. He simply said something along the lines of, “That’s a good name. We’ll wait and see what the baby is before committing.”

Fast forward a few weeks and the spotting started. I had spotting with my previous two pregnancies, but something just didn’t seem right to me. As the blood quickly changed from brown to red, I became more alarmed and called my doctor… only to find out she didn’t practice obstetrics any more.

Scrambling to find a new doctor, I found a clinic that would send me for tests and an ultrasound. As I lay on the exam table and saw our sweet little “peanut” on the screen, I smiled. That smile quickly changed though when the tech announced how far along I was. “6 weeks,” she said. My heart sunk. She told me they would check again next week when they should be able to hear a heartbeat better, but I already knew. This baby was no longer with us. I should have been over 8 weeks.

I cried as we left and I found myself begging God to take the baby from me, to not prolong my hopes if indeed he was gone. The next day… he was no longer with us.

I grieved. Deeply. For about a week.

But I also found myself rejoicing in the fact that God had allowed me to truly KNOW my child. I called him by name for 4 beautiful weeks. I cherished those few weeks I had with him. They were memories that I’ll forever “ponder in my heart.”

I haven’t shared much of his story over the years, but lately I’ve been thinking about his birth.

As I scroll through social media, I see others sharing the heart wrenching loss of their sweet babies and my heart grieves with them, but as I watch others grieve, I sometimes feel like I grieve “wrongly” somehow. I don’t think of him very often. I don’t still mourn his loss in a tangible way. Beyond the first couple weeks, I haven’t cried (with the exception of listening to JJ Heller sing “Always” recently).

I’ve been thinking lately about how I seem to grieve differently than others, and that’s when it hit me… we ALL grieve differently. I grieved gut wrenchingly hard for a week or two, but then I found a verse in the Bible that gave me purpose and hope and from that moment, the sun slowly began to shine for me again.

Maybe you are like me. You grieve privately. Your grief was short-lived. You don’t think of the baby you lost every day.

I just want to tell you. It’s ok that you grieve differently.

It’s ok if you grieve publicly… or privately.

It’s ok if you tell everyone… or no one.

Your grief does not have to look like others.

It doesn’t mean you care less. It doesn’t mean you care more.

It’s just different.

And that’s ok.

I have his birth stone on my bracelet and his initials on a necklace. He was my baby, and when I think of him, there is joy. God gave me that miracle baby so that I could praise Him, and while my grief may look differently from others, it’s still real and God’s goodness still saw me through. Just because I cry a bit less maybe doesn’t mean I didn’t care as much… it just means I grieve(d) differently.

Maybe you feel the same way?

I wrote THIS post shortly after he was born in heaven. God gave me a verse that gave me hope and a purpose, and I pray it is a blesses to you as well.

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Erin Kent A Devoted Mama

A Devoted Mama

Erin Kent

Each mama has been uniquely gifted by God in his calling of motherhood. He has equipped each woman with a unique set of circumstances and with a unique personality and talents. While each life looks differently, what doesn’t change is the fact that he equips each mama who lives a life devoted to him! This Devoted Mama feature is meant to encourage you that while every life looks different, a life devoted to God will never return void. Motherhood is our mission field and we are in this together.

Tell us a bit about yourself.

Our family life/dynamic is sort of unique in that we are a military family who also happens to have one medically fragile child. Our oldest daughter, Avalynn, was born with a severe Congenital Heart Defect called Ebstein’s Anomaly and, to-date, has had two major open heart surgeries with another projected within three years. Mix this with the fast paced and ever changing life of a Marine Corps family and it’s a recipe that requires lots of adaptability and positivity! Our youngest, Graham, is one year old and he is such a sweet, silly boy! Having him six years after Avalynn introduces an interesting dynamic into our household. Namely: Starting completely over! But, he was prayed for and anticipated and he is a true gift from God. One of the biggest blessings of the Marine Corps is that we have established such wonderful, long-lasting friendships with people, quite literally, all over the nation! Throughout our marriage, Patrick and I have lived in Tennessee and we currently live in Minnesota. It has been so fun experiencing a different region of our country and being able to live up north for three years!

What does a typical day-in-the-life look like for you?

A typical day for me starts with rising early, if I can. I like to wake before the kids just so I have a moment to enjoy a cup of coffee, read my Bible and/or devotional and pray. Having that alone time helps set the pace for our day. On a really good morning, I even manage to get myself completely ready before the day starts! Those days are few and far between but man, does it feel good when it all falls into place and I can start the day dressed for success. We don’t have a set “wake” time yet. I like the mornings to flow slowly. When the kids wake we “attempt” to do morning time over breakfast but perfection is definitely not always achievable. Some days it just falls into place and others include the kids eating at two different times and that’s okay! Avalynn has her own responsibility chart so she gets to work on that after breakfast and that includes her independent work so, while she completes that, I check off any cleaning tasks I had for that day, try to throw a load of laundry in and get some one on one time with Gray as well as get him dressed. By the time we’ve worked through all of that, it’s usually nearing lunch and after we’ve eaten, Graham goes down for a nap, Ava and I do our math and language arts lessons together and then she does quiet/reading time. I use this time to read or finish up any last minute things I wanted to accomplish. Some days, I even use this time just to sit and breathe for a minute! Afternoons are for hands on history/science projects, outdoor time when it’s warm enough, dinner prep; whatever life holds for us on that particular day! Each day varies, the schedule gets interrupted more often than not but this is the daily “goal.” I like to think of our homeschool as relaxed but scheduled. We have items we intend to check off each day but I’ve learned over the past few years to not stress if we don’t get to everything.

What are some things you enjoy doing?

I like to consider myself a “Jack of all trades but a master of none.” I have honestly dabbled in everything from home decor to makeup, furniture refinishing to wood burning and everything in between! I’m crafty, I enjoy thrifting and antiquing, I love to cook, I sing and I play the piano by ear (mostly). 

What is your testimony?

As a young child, I asked Christ to come into my heart but as I grew older I realized that my perception and understanding of salvation was not what I felt to be authentic. At the age of fourteen, I felt conviction from the Holy Spirit about my eternity and I knew that I needed to be truly saved. I was able to pray with my father alongside and I consider that to be the day that I truly came to know Christ. However, my faith did not really become as deep and meaningful until adulthood. Even as recently as the past ten years, I’ve had to do a lot of deconstructing of “religion” and really grow in the Word. This has changed everything for me! I am so grateful that God opened my heart to the truth that can only be found in the Bible. Religion is emotional and flawed and will mislead. God’s Word never fails. I’m so grateful for that! I have made and continue to make so many mistakes but I have experienced God’s redeeming love. He is so good and kind to me!

What do you do to keep your walk with the Lord fresh during the busyness of motherhood?

On a practical level, one of my favorites tricks for trying to make it easier to be in the Word is laying out my Bible and devotional books the night before, much like we would lay out church clothes! Seeing it out and not having to remember to pull it out of a drawer or off of a book shelf makes it more accessible and I’m less likely to forget! On a realistic level, I love spending time in God’s Word, listening to praise and worship music throughout the day, meeting Him alone in prayer but I have found that, in motherhood, I have to be open to imperfection in my “quiet time” with God. There are days that are whirlwind storms of busyness and chaos and I settle into bed, exhausted and beaten down only to realize that I only glimpsed at a few verses or that I haven’t even opened my Bible. But, one of the beautiful things that I’m still learning is that God loves to meet we mothers where we are. He loves to meet us in the late nights with sick children when we cry out to him for rest and relief. He meets us in the kitchen, hands in dirty dish water, praising Him to the sound of worship music. He meets us in the “Jesus Loves Me” and the “This Little Light of Mine” as we minister to little hearts. He meets us in dirty diapers and snotty noses and piles of laundry. Because this work we’re doing is Kingdom Work. There is no real substitute for His Word and prayer but I am so glad that in this redeeming work of motherhood, that He is still “completing His good work in us” even when we can’t check all of the boxes. We just have to be willing to seek Him where we are. Persistence and not perfection. Daily attempting to know Him.

If another mama were to ask you, what resources would you recommend to her?

One of my most favorite recommendations for mothers who may be new in their walk with the Lord or who maybe don’t know quite where to start when reading the Bible is the devotional “Seamless” by Angie Smith. Although it’s been some time since I’ve used it, I loved how this devotional beautifully weaves the Word of God into the complete story that it is. If we’re honest, the Bible can feel daunting when really dug into for the first time. There’s a whole lot of “thees” and “thous” and “therefores.” This devotional helps break that down a little without compromising the integrity of the Bible itself. I also love any and all devotionals by “The Daily Grace Co.” I’ve used them for some time now and proudly own several studies and I’ve thoroughly enjoyed all of them! My most recent was working through the book of James and my most favorite was my “Fruit of the Spirit” study through them. I am currently working through the devotional “Fighting Words” by Christian music artist Ellie Holcomb and it has also been such an enjoyable addition to my Bible time. I also truly enjoy the Holy Bible App for those times when my physical Bible is not handy. I know this isn’t a new or exciting app but it’s a consistent one for me. This app is great in the evenings for closing my day in the Word. Oftentimes, if I’ve found myself “scrolling” in bed before shut eye, it’s refreshing to end the night by opening my Bible app and reading the verse of the day or a short passage. The app also had some great, short devotionals and has the option to play Scriptures aloud which is handy for when your hands are full! I also recently added a journaling app after I saw it mentioned on the Devoted Motherhood Instagram stories and it has been a true game changer for my journaling! I’ve always been a writer but with a toddler, I was finding that my consistency was waning. Journaling is important to me so I wanted a way to prioritize it. The ability to quickly journal my thoughts, Scriptures or prayers right in an app on my phone has been so wonderful! There are several journaling apps but the one I’m using is Day One.

What do you think it means to be a Devoted Mama?

To me, a devoted mama is firstly, a woman who devotes herself to Jesus Christ. Oftentimes, if I’m struggling in my motherhood and I’m wondering why things seem so hard, I can almost always pinpoint that it has something to do with how little time I’m spending with the Lord. Secondly, I think a devoted mama is one who understand the concept of grace. Grace upon grace upon grace. Grace for herself, her husband and her children. If we’re truthful with ourselves we can all collectively breathe a sigh of relief in the commonality that motherhood is just plain hard sometimes. But, for all of the moments of hardship there is immeasurable grace extended toward us from God and for us to extend toward our families. Lastly, I truly believe a devoted mama views her position as a ministry and a calling and seeks with all of her being to try to emulate and exalt Christ above everything else. We are no where near perfect. We are going to fail miserably and yell loudly and cry at the end of the day at times but I truly feel that a mother who is devoted to her calling will seek to just coat the love of Christ over her family like a healing balm  and will leave a legacy of love for her children.

Any parting thoughts to encourage other mamas to live devotedly?

Mamas, I encourage you to view your children, your family, your responsibility and role as a true gift from God! In a world that likes to view children as a hindrance and a burden, view them as the true blessing that they are. Recently, I read a quote that went something like, “Your children aren’t making you crazy. They’re revealing your sinfulness.” What a thought! These precious faces that we stare into each day are sanctifying us and pointing us constantly to Christ. That thought alone should spark immense joy in our hearts and should encourage us to keep up the good fight of molding tiny hearts. It is truly such a huge honor and a privilege! 

Erin Kent

Erin Kent

My name is Erin Kent. I’m 33 years old and a stay at home wife and homeschooling mother of two; Avalynn is 8 and Graham is 1 year old! My husband of 12 years is an active duty Marine of 17 years so life is busy and ever-changing for our family! We currently reside in Twin Cities- Minnesota but are gearing up for orders back to our home state of North Carolina. I consider myself to be crafty and love everything home decor! I believe with all of my heart that a home cooked meal can cure “all that ails ya” and I enjoy spending time in the kitchen. Above all, I love Jesus with all of my heart and it’s my truest desire to honor Him while raising my children for His kingdom work!

Erin Kent

Erin Kent

My name is Erin Kent. I’m 33 years old and a stay at home wife and homeschooling mother of two; Avalynn is 8 and Graham is 1 year old! My husband of 12 years is an active duty Marine of 17 years so life is busy and ever-changing for our family! We currently reside in Twin Cities- Minnesota but are gearing up for orders back to our home state of North Carolina. I consider myself to be crafty and love everything home decor! I believe with all of my heart that a home cooked meal can cure “all that ails ya” and I enjoy spending time in the kitchen. Above all, I love Jesus with all of my heart and it’s my truest desire to honor Him while raising my children for His kingdom work!

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A Mama’s Guide to Quiet Time During the Early Years

The 5-5-5 Plan

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During the Little Years

Quiet time during the little years… Did you read that and snicker? Or maybe you rolled your eyes and thought, “Not another person telling me how I’m doing it all wrong.”

Mama, this is for you!

After 4 babies, I know all too well those early years. I find myself smack-dab in the middle of them right now. It’s finally bedtime and I have a few quiet moments all to myself. It’s usually during these golden hours between 8 and 10pm that I find myself just wanting to veg on the couch. The day has me physically drained, and yet I don’t want to head to bed either. I’m savoring the quiet.

Even though we are finally sleeping through the night, I know all too well that getting up early doesn’t seem to be an option sometimes. Breastfeeding and a baby that refuses to take a bottle meant that I was the only one getting up multiple times a night for those sweet, sweet midnight snuggles. While I knew those days were fleeting, the thought of getting up early made me cry. Hormonal. Sleep deprived. Early mornings were hard.

So what’s a mama to do?

First of all, realize this is just a phase. God placed you in this season mama. He knows your struggles. He knows you desire time with him. He can and WILL sustain you through it. What I am about to share is not supposed to be the gold standard for your spiritual health, but it is meant to help sustain a weary mama through a busy season.

Out of desperation for my own emotional and physical health, the 5-5-5 plan was formed. I could find 5 minutes here and there throughout my day to be in God’s Word, pray and read a book. By themselves these tasks can seem daunting to a weary mama, but even a sleep deprived mama can find 5 minutes.

Have you ever timed yourself to see how many verses you can read in one minute? You might be surprised. Times that by 5 and you just read a chapter or two of the Bible! Friend, even if all you were able to do today was read your Bible for 5 minutes, you will have done more for yourself than a 1 hour bubble bath or night out of the house. It is time spent with God that fills your cup to overflowing so that you can pour out to your family. Don’t get me wrong. Time to yourself is helpful too, but never to the extent that time with your Sustainer will be! The Word of God is quick and powerful. It will NOT return void.

But what if you don’t FEEL like reading your Bible? Do it anyways. Just like with your physical health, you know that you should chose an apple over that piece of chocolate cake even when what you WANT is the chocolate cake. Choosing to read your Bible despite what you feel like doing will still have nourishment for your soul. Faithfulness yields fruitfulness.

Faithfulness yields fruitfulness.

Prayer is something that I have struggled with over the years. My mind wanders easily. Sometimes I don’t know what to pray for. I know that prayer is so very important, but when I’m having a hard time forming a cohesive thought, praying seems daunting. BUT… the Bible tells us that even when we do not know what to pray for the Spirit intercedes for us.

Recently I learned that according to Dr Caroline Leaf, “It has been found that 13 minutes of daily focused prayer over an 8-week period can change the brain to such an extent that it can be measured on a brain scan.” Prayer literally CHANGES you. Not only does God hear us, but he uses that time with him to change us spiritually AND physically. Wow. That kind of power is worth devoting a minimum of 5 minutes a day to!

"It has been found that 13 minutes of daily focused prayer over an 8-week period can change the brain to such an extent that it can be measured on a brain scan."

Last but not least. Reading.

I think this is the one that takes the furthest back seat. We know we should be reading our Bible and praying, but what can reading other books do for us? When we are reading books by other authors, we are continuing to keep our minds sharp, getting a glimpse into lives outside our own, gleaning information and helpful tools, and simply relating to someone else. Sometimes our worlds can seem pretty small within the confines of our home and work. We can become so focused on our everyday moments that we forget there are people and places outside of ourselves.

Even if you don’t LIKE to read, there are audio books and podcasts that you can listen to! There are paid subscriptions such as Audible, as well as free resources such as Hoopla. With nothing but a library card, you can have access to an entire digital library! I have never once paid for an audio book by using Hoopla.

Sometimes it is hard to know where to start. If you need some good book recs, I have a list of 10 Book Recommendations for a Christian Mama’s Heart that you can check out.

Sweet mama, I know this phase can be so very hard, but hang in there. Implement something easy. Something attainable. As I said before, this isn’t the gold-standard, but remember, this is just a season and you need to continue implementing attainable goals that continue to feed your soul. As your time slowly becomes yours again, you will already have the simple habit of prayer, Bible and reading in place. One day you’ll look up from reading a good book and realize that 20 minutes went by uninterrupted, but unless you are cultivating these habits now, that transition will take longer to attain.

Stay the course!

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When you have little kids running around, finding time to read between diaper changes, running to different extra curricular activities, and making dinner can be hard to do! I am right there with you! But one thing I’ve discovered is that reading is exactly what I need to do, even when it seems all but impossible to squeeze in to an already busy schedule.

Why is reading so important? Because it’s during this busy phase of motherhood I need the encouragement from other women who have walked or are walking the same road as me. I need to hear practical real-life advice that I can apply. I need to laugh at the mother-in-the-trenches-war stories that leave me in stitches because I understand all too well!

While it seems all-too-impossible sometimes to pick up a book, can I encourage you to pick it up for even 5 minutes? You might be surprised at just how much reading you can accomplish in 1 year if you read even 5 minutes a day. Audio books are also a great way to increase your reading log! When I’m walking or doing dishes, I can turn on an audio book. Those 5 minutes are refreshing to the soul!

Here are 10 books that have been a balm to my soul over the past few years. I hope they are an encouragement to you as well. As with all books, I may not agree with the authors 100%, but filtering everything through God’s Word gives me perspective as I read and gain insight.

+Why Motherhood Matters by September McCarthy
+Mere Motherhood by Cindy Rollins
+The Ministry of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson
+Keep a Quiet Heart by Elisabeth Elliot
+Treasuring Christ When Your Hands are Full by Gloria Furman
+Risen Motherhood by Emily Jensen & Laura Wifler
+Well-Watered Woman by Gretchen Saffles
+M is for Mama by Abbie Halberstadt
+Devoted: Great Men and Their Godly Moms by Tim Challies

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My Word of the Year 2022

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Covid fatigue. Are you feeling it?

For something that once held so much promise, 2021 just seemed to be a repeat of 2020 all over again. Between lockdowns and mandates, I think we can all agree that we are tired. The life that we once knew pre-2020 still is just a shadow of the past, and it’s hard to find joy when we are constantly bombarded with depression, division, and death everywhere we look. 

But joy is a choice. 

You know how when you feel when you get off of one of those carnival rides that spins round and round and round? That’s how I could feel right now, but instead I’ve chosen to fix my eyes on the One thing that isn’t changing or moving: God. He is the Rock on which I’ve anchored my soul. So even when all the world seems to be spinning out of control, I can look to Jesus and find my bearings. Just like when you are on that carnival ride and fix your eyes on a single point so that you don’t loose your cookies, the swirling, out-of-control feelings dissipate as I look on my Savior.

So even though the world around me seemed to be spinning out of control, I chose to dig in and live devotedly to the things that mattered most during 2021: my relationship with God, my family and my friends.

I recently read a quote, “If it doesn’t matter for eternity, it doesn’t matter.” I can’t for the life of me remember who said that, but it really stuck with me.

I tend to be someone who easily gets caught up in trying to be the best at everything, and when I fall short (which is inevitable) I can be pretty hard on myself… especially when it comes to being the best mom I can be. That pile of laundry on my laundry room floor? It’s driving me a bit batty… but it doesn’t matter for eternity. Holding my clingy, cranky, teething baby has FAR more eternal rewards than making sure that the clothes are folded and put away.

God doesn’t ask for perfection. He asks for faithfulness.

In my zeal for bringing my children to Christ, sometimes I put myself in the way. While pondering the concept of faithfulness over perfection, I had the realization that when I demand perfection of myself, I am trying to put myself in Jesus’s place. He is the only One who can and has lived a perfect life. When I try to be perfect, really I am trying to replace Christ and “do it by my own self” as my 3 year old would say. Does that mean I don’t need to try my best and improve? Absolutely not! But it does mean that my perspective shifts and I ask myself, “Does this matter for eternity?”

Between self-imposed perfectionism and a world that seems to get crazier by the minute, it’s easy to lose my focus on the eternal, and if I’m not careful, I can let it rob me of my joy. But as I said before, JOY IS A CHOICE!

Happiness changes with circumstances, but joy is something that can not be taken from me because the JOY of the Lord is my strength.

So this year, I am choosing JOY!

I want to smile more. Laugh more. Dance more.

I want to let go of unrealistic expectations. Let go of uncertainty. Let go of doubt.

When I walk into a room, I want my joy to be contagious and leave others feeling stronger, happier, more peaceful because they see someone who knows where her source of strength comes from: the Lord!

I want to have a heart overflowing with praise and gratefulness. I want to have lips that sing my thankfulness to the God of heaven and earth.

Despite the tears and sadness that are sure to come because we live in a broken world, I choose joy. It will be my source of strength in the hard times and bubble over in laughter and singing when my heart is light.

Joy… the world needs more joy. REAL joy. The kind that isn’t determined by circumstances, but the kind that is firmly fixed in Jesus.

So this year, I’m anchoring my soul to the source of joy… Jesus!

 

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My Word of the Year 2021

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Looking back on this past year, the world was swept into a pandemic, fear was rampant, and everyone’s lives were forever changed. The world we once knew was nothing but “sinking sand.” It was in these moments of uncertainty though that I was reminded of what IS certain.

My hope is built on nothing less
Than Jesus Christ, my righteousness;
I dare not trust the sweetest frame,
But wholly lean on Jesus’ name.

On Christ, the solid Rock, I stand;
All other ground is sinking sand,
All other ground is sinking sand.

My Hope is Built on Nothing Less |
Edward Mote

I had chosen the word “cultivate” for 2020, and little did I expect the “sinking sands” of our world to be the perfect soil for cultivating what was important. In all of the shut-downs and stay-at-home orders, I was able to spend more quality time with my family and learn that we didn’t need to go somewhere to make lasting memories.

We lived slowly. I started making sourdough bread. I read a lot of really great books. I played with my children. I grew a baby! I cultivated a life focused on the “little” things, which were really the big things all along.

We cultivated our relationships with each other and with God. I was able to read my Bible through in a year and seek God’s face without all the distractions that “being busy” brings. We had to get creative with family time, which meant that we created memories we wouldn’t have otherwise made.

Yes, I believe 2020 gave us the perfect environment to learn, grow and by God’s grace… thrive.

Now, here I am on the other side of 2020. After spending the past year cultivating the soil of our lives, I now find it’s time to grow our roots deeper and stronger. It’s time press on. Cling to that which is good. Strive for what is important. Put aside those “little foxes” that spoil the vine and live devoted to those things that bring us closer to God, to each other and to the family of God.

Devoted.

That is my word for this upcoming year. I want to live Daringly Devoted in an ever-changing world. I want to live in such a way that my actions show what I am devoted to: to God, to family, to the fellowship of believers.

I want to my children to know that I am a devoted mama, one they can count on to point them towards Christ, listen to them and meet their physical needs.

I want to be a devoted wife that supports her husband as he leads our home.

I want to be a devoted daughter, a daughter of the King, one that brings honor to his Holy name.

I want to be devoted to YOU, to uplift you, to encourage you as my sisters-in-the-faith. We all have a different journey, but we can all live devotedly to whatever path God has called us to walk! We all have the same destination. We will just get there differently.

I pray that at the end of 2021, my devotion will be deeper and my faith will be stronger. My Christ is a solid rock on which I can stand. I don’t have to worry about my devotion changing when I’m firmly sanding on The Rock of Ages.

So here’s to a new year! May we press forward and find ourselves living a life devoted to what really matters.

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My Word of the Year 2020

The past few days I’ve been trying on words like I would a new shirt in the fitting room. Each word fit right in certain places, accentuating certain aspects of my life, but none of the words I ‘tried on’ seemed to embody all the right areas. Like a shirt that has a great color but fits way too tightly in the hips, each word wasn’t what I wanted to bring home with me.

Then this morning as I read through my devotions, I picked up Mom Heart Moments by Sally Clarkson, and a word jumped off of the page and settled into the soft soil of my mother-heart. As I let it settle there, I felt it begin to take root and grow.

Cultivate.

Every goal that I have planned for this year has a purpose. I don’t want to read through my Bible this year for the purpose of saying that I did it, but rather to cultivate wisdom and a closer relationship with God. In doing so, I’m cultivating my heart and mind to be fixed on things above and to bring a true, honest, just, lovely and good report to my family.

I’m not working towards simplifying our home to be ‘trendy,’ but because I want to cultivate an environment of peace and joy. I don’t want things and schedules to take away from moments of connection and to create stress and business for no purpose.

Life ebbs and flows. There will be times of business, times of routine, and times of rest, and if I am cultivating a rhythm of simplicity and intentionality, those times will be filled with peace and joy unspeakable. The ‘stuff’ will be out of the way and the people and relationships will blossom. Even the hard, messy times are cultivating the soil for growth and connection.

When we strip away the distractions, we are able to cultivate wonder. In 2020, I have a goal to get my kids outside for 1000 hours. This is a lofty goal that isn’t meant to cause stress, but rather having something to press towards. Just as we are to ‘press toward the mark’ in our Christian walk because of the joy it brings us to reach for the best God has for us, we can pursue 1000 hours outside not for recognition or a certificate of completion but because we want to cultivate wonder, curiosity, and time with the Creator.

This year I don’t just want our family to grow, I want to cultivate a place we can THRIVE.

Not just happy but joy-FULL.
Not just be but becoming.
Not just here but present.
Not just grounded but blooming.
Not just see but experience.
Not just think but wonder.
Not just hear but listen.
Not just do but do for God’s glory.

These years are precious. Will you join me in cultivating your home to bring praise and honor His Holy Name?

Have a blessed 2020!

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How can you #blessavasheart?

I cannot image the shock, the fear, the uncertainty that parents face when they are told that their sweet little bundle of joy has a birth defect. Despite the apparently perfect exterior, they are told that the heart inside their baby’s adorable little body… the organ that keeps all other parts of the body alive… is flawed.

I’ve had the honor of watching my friend Erin navigate these hard waters with grace and faith. Her sweet daughter Avalynn was born with Congenital Heart Disease, and through this long journey they have undergone, I’ve watched her faith tested and grown. I’ve watched her advocate for answers. I’ve watched her love unconditionally and fight fiercely. She and Avalynn are inspirations to everyone that knows them… and I hope they are an inspiration to you as well!

This week is Congenital Heart Disease Awareness Week, so I’ve asked Erin to share Ava’s story as a way to raise awareness. This sweet girl has already undergone heart surgery and will need another surgery in the future. Please read her story below and if you feel led to donate, I have a link at the bottom of this page to help support The Children’s Heart Foundation.

Perhaps, one of the most important thoughts that crosses a mother’s mind when they await the arrival of a new baby is “health.” Will they be healthy? Will their little organs function just like they’re supposed to? I remember counting Avalynn’s ten fingers and ten toes, checking all of the vital parts and staring into her beautiful blue eyes; relishing in the fact that I was a mother to a, seemingly, perfectly happy and healthy baby. 

Two days after Avalynn’s birth, her pulse oxygen (or the level of oxygen that your blood is receiving, thus dictating whether organs furthest from the heart are receiving nourishment that they need) dropped dangerously low. It didn’t take long for her to receive a diagnosis of a Congenital Heart Defect or “CHD.” The question was: What kind was it?

Doctors and nurses seemed baffled and, the fact that we had delivered Avalynn at a small community hospital only made the situation more stressful. The baby who, all along had been so healthy, now had this unexpected, life-threatening diagnosis.

Several phone calls to a surrounding, major university hospital and conference calls with specialists while our daughter lay in the NICU left us with a loose diagnosis that would later become firm. Avalynn had Ebstein’s Anomaly of the Tricuspid Valve, along with an Atrial Septal Defect. 

Ebstein’s Anomaly is rare, very rare. It affects only 1 in every 200,000 children who have CHDs. It is a condition where the Tricuspid Valve is misplaced or collapsed in the right ventricle. The leaflets of the Tricuspid Valve are also malformed. These direct the flow of blood throughout the heart and, because of their malformation, blood kind of goes where it wants. The additional Atrial Septal Defect (which is essentially just a hole between the upper two chambers of the heart) allows for leakage and backflow of blood.

We took Avalynn home with this diagnosis and prayed God’s safety over her. We didn’t know how else to handle the diagnosis. We learned as we went that Ebstein’s was unpredictable at best and that it presented itself in different ways in different children. Ava was anatomically severe and she was symptomatically mild. 

The Lord has protected Ava and has left her mildly symptomatic until late last year when we began noticing her symptoms of blue skin (cyanosis) and exhaustion. We knew it was time for surgical intervention, as badly as our hearts ached at the thought of it. Confirmation from her cardiologist and her surgeon at the Mayo Clinic (a renowned trailblazer and the top surgeon for Avalynn’s condition) encouraged us to schedule the date. 

Avalynn recently came through her first open heart surgery. Unfortunately, the procedure that we hoped would be enough for Avalynn, alone, ended up not working and a second procedure was paired with it. For this reason, Avalynn will require at least one additional operation, sooner rather than later, and likely several throughout her life, depending on what her heart does. 

However, we were told that, had we waited, Avalynn would have been left with less options and it is more likely that a heart transplant would be needed. We are so grateful for God’s protection, His wisdom and guidance in our decisions to trust our instincts when we began seeing change in our little girl.

Through it all, God’s grace has been prevalent, His peace has been unreal and He has lavished His love on Avalynn and on my husband, Patrick, and I, just as He tells us He will in His Word. His strength is perfect when our strength is gone. 

Although, I would rather Avalynn not have a condition at all, her condition has affected us positively in so many ways. Firstly, it has strengthened our relationship with the Lord; drawing us closer to Him and, essentially, forcing us to be fully dependent on Him. It has also allowed us to branch into the word of philanthropy. Every year, since Avalynn has been born, we have chosen a worthy non-profit, held fundraisers and allocated all proceeds raised to one or more organizations. It has been such a source of joy for us, as parents, and an opportunity for learning for Avalynn. It has allowed us to teach her that we are more than our circumstances and that we can take any situation and use it to bless others. Lastly, Avalynn’s condition has moved Patrick and I into the certainty of homeschooling. Like most potential homeschoolers, we have had our self-doubts; mostly wondering if we’re capable of the responsibility of Avalynn’s education but, I have felt pulled to this ministry since Ava was small.  As a stay-at-home mother, I feel strongly that it is my duty to take on all of the roles of care for Avalynn; including that of her teacher. It was a very real calling for me. I understand that this isn’t a calling for everyone but, I try not to silence the call of the Holy Spirit when He’s encouraging me, specifically, to a certain place or responsibility in my own life. 

Ava’s diagnosis requires some proactiveness. Trying to eliminate as much exposure to sickness (especially respiratory sickness) is a necessity. Kids get sick but, certain viruses can really wreak havoc on a weakened cardiovascular system. Many people teasingly refer to heart moms as “germaphobes” which isn’t a stretch! Ha! In addition, Ava requires lots of cardiac monitoring and, now we know that she’ll require at least one more operation during her school age. Because of this and my husband’s career as a Marine, keeping her learning base within the home makes the most sense for our lifestyle. In so many ways, I feel like the Lord has just lined everything up this way. It’s so neat to see His hand in every aspect of our lives. It’s hard to grasp His presence in some of the more tumultuous moments but, when the calm comes and we can look back from safety, it is breathtaking to see what He was working in our lives all along. 

All in all, we have been so very blessed. Avalynn continues to defy medical odds. She is a beautiful, spunky, smart, helpful, tender-hearted little four-year-old who loves all of the normal things kids love. We look around in the CHD world and see so many others who are in worse condition than we are and, for that reason, we strive to give of ourselves and our time to further research and to increase the aid that some of the less fortunate families in similar circumstances as ours do not have. 

We look forward to where God’s will takes Avalynn and how He continues to work in our lives, as well! 

Erin Kent (Avalynn’s Mommy)

There are 40,000 babies born each year with a form of Congenital Heart Disease, which makes this the most common birth defect in the world. If you would like to donate to help with the research, please click the link below:

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